The old saying goes "You can't live with them, and you can't live without them". Some would beg to differ. Regaurdless of the dynamics we all have family. While growing up you just have to manage one group of people, but when you get married there are two sets of parents, grandparents, sisters and brothers, and aunts and uncles you have to please. The Holidays are no longer anticipated with joy but with stress about how to make both families feel important or included.
Its not always easy and there is no real science to getting it right. My best advice to anyone is to do what works for your house. Too many times husband and wives get in the business of pleasing their parents and lose themselves and the idea that they have set for their homes and children. Do not get me wrong families matter and parents and grandparents feelings should be taken into consideration, but give very little attention to their opinions when it can cost you marital or money issues. Nothing is worth creating problems in your marriage or putting the family account in the hole.
Families should be understanding of each situation and although thats ideal its not always the reality. So please do not allow family to get you down. Continue to reassure them that they are loved and be the shining example they need to see.
Truth!
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